Instead his elder brother called and says that I have to talk to him. The problem lies with communication.
What is this? Of course there's communication issue. My husband don't talk at all. In our house, there is only 1-way communication. If any of us (including his mother) tried to establish a 2-way communication, we will end up being scolded. His scolding would be loud voices plus hurting verbs. So we end up the losing end as both me and my MIL can't speak as loud as him and we are not good in scolding. This kind of communciation has been going on for years.
I had always thought that by giving in, everyone happy, I would be too. I AM WRONG. This doesm't work at all. I ended up being the dependent, no-brain woman who can't make decisions and can't handle things/situations alone.
This was one of the reason quoted by him and that's why he says I'm a changed person...we have different frequency. I'm worst after having my 2 kids. I'm no longer the active person who goes canoeing and mountain climbing. Instead I'm always going to my parent's place whenever he works on weekends!
My gosh...I'm dumbed founded. I never knew that my sacrifice (in his context is not) is not worth it. I spent all my free time to handle the kids so that he can work anytime he is activated by his company. This, in return, becomes reason for my marriage failure.
I started to ask myself where have I gone wrong....Did I not do enough for him and the family? Finally, I found the answer (after being reminded by my friends and family members)..... I did TOO MUCH. I did too much and gave him a too comfortable life to go out and have a rendevous whenever he wants. I gave him so much trust that I never at anytime check on him.
Should I just let him go?
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